Hello Readers,
Happy New Year to all of you out there.
I hope the start to
the year of 2019 has been blissful for you.
This New year, my focus is going to be one thing and that is
the topic of my blog post too. Is it time to let go? Is it time to cut down on
the sorrow in your life? I know using the word Sorrow here makes it quite
vague, but the reason I am using it is because, there are a lot of factors that
bring different feelings like hatred, disappointment, loneliness and all this
results in sorrow. I have dealt with a lot in the last year. I have lost people
I thought were close to me, and have gained haters for reasons that make no
sense. But I have always been someone who tries to please the other person, and
I went out of my way to make sure that the other person either doesn’t hate me
or doesn’t leave my life. But in doing so, I have ended up losing my dignity,
and looking weak in front of the other.
Someone once said, to forgive and forget, but recently I
realized that when you let someone hurt you multiple times and forgive them, it
becomes a habit for them since they now know that they wouldn’t lose you. The
feeling of knowing that you are needed is like a drug. Abusing it feels very
easy for everyone. I am an affectionate person and I don’t mind showing everyone
around me that I need them, but I didn’t know that I was painting a target on
me and I was an easy one too. 2018 taught me that I took myself for granted and
that is why people took me granted. I reminded myself that I am a nice person. And
that one statement changed my life. I cut down on the number of friends I had,
slowly and slowly. It helped me gain self-confidence, and it also made me
realize that the more number of people we know, it is hard to please everyone.
Always be with someone who would go out of their way to
please you, and you should also go out of your way to please them. If it is one
sided, then that is your cue to end that toxic relationship. Any relationship,
where the effort feels one sided is toxic because one of you is the weaker one.
I believe that a relationship (Friendship or Love) is complete, when the roles
are equal. So Yes, it is time to let go. Time to let go off anyone or anything
that brings the slightest of sorrow in your life. Focus on loving yourself and
it will show the world that you are shying away from being alone too. Have
friends and lovers, but make sure they need you as much as they do.
I am going to go ahead and call this an exercise. Make a list of people who you genuinely believe would go out of their way to please you, and then you would know the real number of friends you have. If you have a lover, you can use the same exercise. Anyone who is taking an upper hand and making you the weakling in the relationship is not a good partner. The sooner you realize it, the better it is for you. So make 2019 count, and make 2019 the year of Y-O-U!
