What is Dating?

The date

Dating is a standard way of saying that two teens are together. But in india, it is highly disregarded. Firstly we need to understand when someone is asking us out on a date. When someone is asking you to meet up randomly, don’t consider that a date. When someone specifically tells you that they want to take you out on a date, and then be prepared for it. Guys are highly mistaken with this one misunderstanding. Ask me, I know how it feels. Anyways, the date doesn’t have to be romantic or anything. Try and make the other person know who you really are. I don’t believe in acting fake around others. But the most important rule in a date is, when you meet someone make sure you are paying attention to the person with you, and not to your phone. I have gone through the pain of meeting someone and having to look at them being busy with their phones. Yeah, it did get on my nerve but that was the last of that. It doesn’t matter if you meet the person at a club, a beach, or at any high class restaurant. It depends on you. You need to be at your best to let the other person know about why you want to be with them at that moment. It is all about seizing the moment. All the best to your upcoming endeavors ladies and gentlemen.

How Important is Family?

Family

Family for me has come down to the sixth phase, because although family plays a vital role during teenage, it does not affect us that much when compared to the hormones that attack us during teenage. But, here goes. Not all teenagers have a good rapport with their parents. My parents are pretty cool about being in a relationship, but they advice me not to day dream about getting married and having kids and stuff. It’s nice when your mom or your dad turns into your friend. I know that most of you readers would have it that way. But certain teens go through hell with their homes. I honestly believe that there isn’t anything in the world that cannot be talked through. Parents are just scared that their kids would do something wrong. They need to be assured that you are going to be fine and all they need to do is trust you. To the guys, all I can say is, parents are only worried that you won’t do anything in life, show them once that they can trust you and you will see the change yourself. To the girls, it is not advisable to be thinking that your parents don’t love you, or expects you to sit at home doing nothing. I know that girls have to go through a lot given the situation of what the society thinks. Well, to hell with the society. Tell your parents, that you are only concerned about what your parents think about you and not the society. Tell them that you are mature enough to know what you are doing and that they should learn to trust you with your decision. It is not bad for parents to be protective of their kids, but once in a while, they need to understand what you are going through too. Don’t hide things from your parents. Instead, try talking to them about it and see how it helps them trust you.

Ever Been Betrayed

Betrayal

The taste of betrayal is a bitter one. They say truth is always bitter, I think betrayal is the worst. I know it kills one to be hurt that way. You trust someone with something, later get to know that they have turned their back on you to only go against you. Some might have been betrayed in friendship, some in their relationship or someone even in their family. I was betrayed in friendship. A friendship I believed which could have gone a long way. It did bring me down, but not enough to make me lose my mind. Quotes on betrayal by famous people, songs about betrayal help me through it. But later, as I grew up I realized something. It doesn’t matter being betrayed. Sooner or later, it was coming my way. I believe someone who can betray you once, will never get a chance to do it again unless you are an utter fool. The friend who betrayed did hurt me, but wasn’t he at loss? He lost a good friend. Someone he could have trusted with his problems. But he will realize that some day while I come back to normal. A person who can betray you once will never change. I know it is said that people deserve a second chance, but it is never said that people change if given a second chance. While some readers might believe the other person, I won’t. Betrayal helped me grow as a person. It helped me in understanding people better. I can easily figure out who is who from a bunch. Don’t think everyone has their intentions in talking to you. Some do, but others don’t. Too many guys and girls these days on going through betrayal only have to say that everyone is like that. Don’t blame the whole gender because of one soul. Accept the fact that you were a fool in trusting the other person. And that will help you grow. The process is pretty simple and sweet.

Friendship A Pillar!

Friendship

My experience with friends has been like a curve. I have had backstabbers; I have had the ones that stay for a while and the ones who can trust blindly with your life. I personally believe that a friend in need is a friend indeed. You don’t have to be friends with someone just to talk to them. I have heard people saying they are lonely just because they have no one to talk to. What is the point of having a friend just to talk to? Friendship is for me a feeling that brings a smile on your face when you are around someone. Don't get me wrong, some might define love like that. My definition for love is all the while different from this.  Coming back to friendship, It is when you can trust someone with anything you need to let out. Yes, I have a friend like that. I trust him with all my life. We have been friends for a decade now. I am basically a social person. I talk to many people, but I don’t believe in calling them friends. I believe in calling them acquaintances. It isn’t a bad word. It helps in reducing the confusion of defining what a person is to you. A friend is the biggest key to happiness during teenage. We go through depression, we need a friend. We go through success, we need a friend. We need to hang out, we need a friend. I know some readers would say, sometimes girlfriends/boyfriends are enough to do all this, I would call them boring. I went through a lot of depression during my teenage. My family has not supportive of me. But that was when I looked up to my friends for help. Wait, I shouldn’t say help. I needed my friends to let me know I have someone. And they sure did. It took me a while to make my parents proud of me, but yeah, with the guidance of a friend I sure did. Whenever I see someone cribbing about not having too many friends, the only advice I have to tell them is, you have one friend. Trust him and don’t let him go. One is good, two is great, but three is always a crowd. Don't have an ambition of making friends. Or, don't say you are good at making friends, make sure those friends that you make hold on to you when you need them the most. 

A Teenage Relationship

A Teenage Relationship

This is the continuation of the previous phase yet; here I am going to tell the readers what a teenage relationship according to me is. What do you do in schools and colleges? You learn. A teenage relationship is not someplace where you go to work. According to me, it is where you learn. You learn to be an adult. Learn to adjust with the opposite sex. People think that not having a teenage relationship will make their parents happy or it satisfies them. But they are missing out on one of the most important parts of their life. And this they will regret all their life. When someone who hasn’t been with a guy/girl all his life decides to get married to someone his/her parents chose, he has no idea how much problems he will have adjusting to the needs of the guy/girl.

In most cases the marriage ends in a divorce or one out of the two is never happy and tries hard to adjust. Or in some cases one of the two has an affair with someone else. A teenage relationship is not only for fun. It is an education in a way. I am trying to tell this to the readers here because when people I know end a relationship with the other, they tend to depression, moaning, weeping, and trying to commit suicide (utter stupidity!) I find it really odd. Because when you have ended a relationship it means that you need to move on. The world isn’t a small place. The phrase “there is no one like her/him” is of no use here on earth. There are billions of people who you will find.

When someone says, “I think we need to end this”, don’t start begging them to come back. Understand that the relationship has gone its course. You need to acknowledge the fact that you spent time with the other person and always cherish the moments you had with them. 

The First Boy/Girl Friend

The First Boy/Girl Friend

The first boy/girl friend is someone who turns us as a mature teenager according to my experience. Readers if you are teenagers like me; you will quite understand why I am stating this as u read on.

During our first relationship with the opposite sex, it is the first time we actually do things that will make the other person happy. We adjust according to them which we don’t often do for others. We quite understand how girls are or how boys are and how they need to be handled. Girls understand that there are guys who are sensitive and boys understand that there are girls who are quite strong and are full of guts. It is only during the first relationship that the other person shows you where you are wrong by arguing for small mistakes that you make. I understand that these arguments lead to the end of the relationship, but if you sit down and think with a clear mind, you will understand that, in real the other person has taught you a lot of stuff by showing you how you are which no one else does(except our mother though!).

Now going on to my experience, I was quite a stubborn kid as I grew up. During my first relationship I realized a lot of things about me. I might as well say my first relationship changed my whole life, and I am not kidding. The girl I went out with argued a lot. If I call myself stubborn you got to see her. She was like crazy at times. Yet I owe thanks to her for changing me as a person (if you get to read this, Thank you!).

The first relationship also helps you reduce your mistakes during the next coming relationships. As we learn from every mistake we make, we tend to be careful in other aspects of our life too.

The First Crush

The First Crush

Well, do I have to say anything about this phase? Because this is known to be the best phase of a teen’s life. The first crush is on any day never forgotten by any teenager. Let me tell you my experience. It was the first day of my 8^th grade. I stepped into my class as everyone was greeting each other after a long break. And then was when my heart started pumping at quite a fast pace. There she was, the girl I immediately fell in love (the first crush) with. I didn’t know what to do. I just couldn’t stop blushing every time I saw her. This happens in most cases where the teen’s of this generation fail. The reason we can’t stand in front of them of having the fear that we will do something to embarrass us. This fear has in fact stopped teenagers from telling their crush about how they feel.

Most teenagers prefer telling the guy/girl indirectly about their feelings. But it’s quite proven that these days confronting the other person and telling them about your feelings has been successful. My advice to the readers would be, “don’t forget the first crush as they have an important role in your life. That is when your hormones within you have started to function well. That is when you learn to be a adult. These feelings don’t come as you grow older. That tense feeling in your stomach that you feel when your crush passes by is not often as you become an adult.

I encountered a situation where I couldn’t stop myself from telling the girl I liked her but it turned out to be a funny experience for me. I have this odd problem of turning red. The same happened with me when I was standing opposite the girl and as I told her I liked her I turned red. This instead made her think I was cute. I was scared it will make me look awkward but it was an advantage. Sometimes we ought to consider our positive traits rather look for the negatives.